THINGS I LEARNED IN LIFE
Anyone can say I’m sorry… but the best apology… is a change in behavior..
Accept what is… Let go of what was… and have faith in God… for what will be…
Quiet people… aren’t the only ones who don’t have much to say…
Love is a verb… not a noun… !!!
Tight shoes don’t make your feet look THAT much smaller… Vanity isn’t worth the pain.
No one is an expert on you… except you.
There is ALWAYS another way of looking at anything.
That it takes years to build up trust… and only seconds to destroy it.
That it’s not what you have in your life… but who you have in your life that counts.
That you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes… After that… you’d better know something.
That you shouldn’t compare yourself… to the best others can do… but to the best… you can do.
That it’s not what happens to people that are important… It’s what they do about what happens that matters most…
You can do something in an instant… that will give you heartache for life.
That no matter how thin you slice it… there are always two sides.
That it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
That it’s a lot easier to react… than it is to think.
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words… It may be the last time you see them.
That you can keep going long after you think you can’t.
That we are responsible for what we do… no matter how we feel.
That either you control your attitude… or it controls you.
That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first… the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
Those heroes are the people who do what has to be done… when it needs to be done… regardless of the consequences.
That learning to forgive takes practice.
That there are people who love you dearly but just don’t know how to show it.
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing… and have the best time.
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.
That sometimes when I’m angry… I have the right to be angry… but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
That true friendship continues to grow… even over the longest distance… Same goes for true love.
That just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to… doesn’t mean they don’t love you… the best they can.
That maturity has more to do with what experiences you’ve had… and what you’ve learned from them… and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
That you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish… Few things are more humiliating… and what a tragedy it would be if they believed you.
That no matter how good a friend is… they’re going to hurt you every once in a while… and you must forgive them for that.
That it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others… Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
That no matter how bad your heart is broken… life doesn’t stop for your grief.
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are… but we are responsible for who we become.
That sometimes when my friends fight… I’m forced to choose sides even when I don’t want to.
That just because two people argue… it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other… And just because they don’t argue… it doesn’t mean they do.
That sometimes you have to separate the individual… from some of their actions.
That we don’t have to change friends… if we understand that friends change.
That you shouldn’t always be so eager to find out a secret… that could change your life forever.
That two people can look at the exact same thing… and see something totally different.
That no matter how you try to protect your children… they will eventually get hurt… and you will hurt in the process.
That there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
That no matter the consequences… those who are honest with themselves get farther in life.
That no matter how many friends you have… there will still be times… when you will feel lonely and lost…
That your life can be changed in a matter of moments… by people who don’t even know you.
That even when you think you have no more to give… when a friend or loved one cries out to you… you will find the strength to help.
That writing… as well as talking… can ease emotional pains…
That the paradigm we live in… is not all that is offered to us.
That credentials on the wall… do not make you a decent human being.
That the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
That although the word “love” can have many different meanings… it loses value when overused.
That it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
That you cannot make someone love you… All you can do is be someone who can be loved… The rest is up to them.
That no matter how much I care… some people just don’t care back.
Been thinking a lot lately… about some of the things I believe:
I believe it is never right to use the truth unkindly…
I believe there are some things worth dying for…
but few worth killing for…
I believe it really isn’t so important to be right… if someone else is made to feel… wrong…
I believe we could have loved the people we have loved… better…
I believe we can disagree without making either one of us… a bad person…
I believe that letting go of something or someone… frees up space for something or someone new… and often better…
I believe even a single act of kindness… can begin to change the world…
I believe the two most powerful words we might ever speak… could be… “I’m Sorry”…
I believe the greatest need we have is for love… and love is also our greatest loss.
I learned so much from Muffin and Cesar… my American Cocker Spaniels… they lived exclusively in the moment… They were not troubled by unhappy memories of the past… nor did they spend the day worrying about some distant future… their needs were simple… shelter…food… water… and love and attention from me… They asked for nothing more than to be allowed to occupy time and space in my life… expecting only that those basic needs be met… in return, they offered unconditional love… They never criticized how I looked or dressed… They respected my privacy when I needed it… and they were always willing to share affection and attention with me at any moment… They didn’t harbor grudges… nor did they know anger and resentment… when they did something wrong and they knew I was upset… They got this “I’m sorry” look in their eyes and came over to me looking for acceptance… and who could deny them… They were content with their lives… felt no pressure to achieve success… to gain wealth… or celebrity… unlike those of us who struggle with those foolish concerns… They awoke each morning… satisfied that their few needs would be met and that at the end of the day they could curl up next to someone they loved… seeking only to be loved in return… I have learned so much from Cesar and Muffin… and I miss them every day of my life…