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book-190034_640Nothing steals the flavor… of my favorite food… like missing someone I loved…

The math says… one plus one… equals two… then why does one minus you… equal emptiness…

Sometimes… missing one special person… makes me feel like the whole world… is suddenly empty…

The shortest journey… is the one you share… with good company…

Nothing can change your world… like the collision of your heart… with someone else’s…

The best protection against hurting others… is remembering how it felt… when someone hurt you…

Sometimes… the one you want most in your life… is just waiting for a clear invitation…

I have always been pretty good at making a friend of strangers… but not always so good… at making a friend… of someone I loved…

There is no “something”… that will ever mean as much… as a special “someone”…

A real relationship is one… you both worked on … understand… and play by the same ground rules.

Lust is easy… it can be involuntary and meaningless… love is hard… you have to find it… and work at it.

Real friends… know when it’s wise to understand… that some things… never happened.

You miss the one you love… when you are apart… not because you live in their world… but their world… lives in you.

In the end… who among us is not willing… to be a little less right… to be a little less lonely…

Selfish expectations… are the rust of a relationship…

Some of the best advice on how to have a successful relationship is… “Don’t be afraid to be the one… who loves the most…”

Being alone… is not such a bad place to be… especially… when it is the alternative to distrust… and unhappiness.

I think… in any really successful relationship… Love… barely makes the top 5… Honesty… loyalty… trust… and communication… all may be more important…

Don’t confuse comfort… with happiness…!!!

Simply opposing what you think is wrong… is a waste of energy… working for what you think is right… is what creates change.

I have learned the most in my lifetime… not from those who “told” me how to live… but from those who simply lived a good life… so that I could “see” how it was to be done…

Making a necessary life change can be hard… what’s even harder is… Regret…!!!

Be careful… not to fall in love with the moment… and think you’re in love with the person.

Real friends are not the ones who make your problems disappear… they are the ones… who won’t disappear… when problems do appear.

One of the most difficult decisions we have to make in life… Whether it is a job… a relationship… or a dream… Is when to try harder… or when to just walk away.

It is only on the darkest nights… that we can best see the stars.

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We accept the love… we think we deserve

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“Life is not about finding ourselves… it is about creating ourselves”… we are not lumps of clay… waiting to be shaped by some invisible potter… on the contrary…we are endowed with the ability to “create” our lives… based on the choices we make… the values we hold… the sum total of our ideas, values and life choices is what shapes us all…

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When someone has done us wrong… keeping the anger and disappointment inside just prolongs the hurt… we have to learn to accept the apology when it is offered… in fact… sometimes we have to accept the apology even when it is not offered…

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Sometimes it is better to be kind… than it is to be truthful… especially since we can be sure of the benefits of kindness… but can’t always be sure about what the truth is…and what effect the truth might have…

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You know you are in a real relationship… when the time comes that you know each other’s faults… and have accepted them… and when you are both trusting and confident enough… to let each other keep some necessary secrets…

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Worrying about what other people think… is a waste of time… most of them are too busy with their own lives to have the time to really care about yours… but once in a while… you will find someone who really listens… understands… and cares… about everything about you… hang on to them… they are the ones you have been looking for…

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When we face sorrow in life… people tell us to “get over it”… “Let it go…” or “Forget it, move on”… All of this presupposes that when life brings us sadness or pain… we need to get over it as quickly as we can… I disagree… I think sometimes instead of dumping the pain… we ought to embrace it… feel it… allow it to do its job of teaching us about life… When we just “let it go”… we lose the chance to learn it’s lesson…

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185879_10150208851834762_603034761_9153142_5749412_nMy usual strategy for living my life is to focus on the future… following Satchel Paige’s advice not “to look back, something may be gaining on you…” lol But at this time of year… it pays to look back at our footsteps… if only to remind ourselves… that most of the time… we chose the path that led us to where we are today..

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Today would be a great day for all of us to give up on the idea of being perfect… and begin concentrating on just being ourselves…

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I have a friend who is a workaholic… He has little time for his wife and kids just now… he says he works all these hours because he wants to make as much money as he can… to provide for his family… I wonder if he realizes that no matter how much money he makes…. he will never be able to buy back the time… he is losing with them now…
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When you show kindness and generosity to others… it is not a gift…. it is an investment… the more kindness and generosity you invest in others… the more you will receive in return…
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There is no question we must all be willing to believe… willing to trust… but whenever our desire to believe… ignores reason… and we insist on trusting when there is compelling doubt… we make it easy for the liars!
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What binds two people together?… not the things most of us suspect… I think it will be the years of little “shared experiences”… The long-ago struggles in the beginning… the foolish hurts… soothed by a touch… a sunset in some exotic place… a picnic on a sunny afternoon… a walk in the rain… a walk along a deserted beach… the sound of singing in the shower… a comforting hug in the middle of the night… the sound of their car in the driveway… and the dozens of glances from across the room… that say… “I love you”…

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I am discovering… that some of the people I have loved… were not deserving of it… but that’s their loss… not mine…

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Whatever you have planned for today… wherever you have to go… I wish only that my prayer for your success and joy… gets there in the same moment that you do…

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First, strive to understand… then ask to be understood…

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When someone complains to you that life is hard… Ask… “Compared to what?”

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Worse than breaking a promise… is trying to stay true to a promise someone else broke… long ago…

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It is may seem easier… to build a lie… that gets you through the day… than to face the truth that haunts you through the night.

I have learned the most in my lifetime… not from those who “told” me how to live… but from those who simply lived a good life… so that I could “see” how it was done…

 I believe in God… but for me… Faith in God… is not about how loudly you sing in church… or how many Bible verses you can recite… It’s not about how often you profess your faith… or your public works… It’s about the quiet, little things you do every day… to love God… and to love your neighbor

We take our problems to God… through prayer… not to influence Him… but to demonstrate that we surrender the effort to solve them in our own strength… Have a blessed Sunday…!!!

We spend so much of our time… searching for a love that will “complete” us… and often we wait for it to come and fulfill our lives… but love itself… cannot complete us… it can only give us the courage…to complete ourselves…

I don’t get the sense of statements like “Get Real”… or “Be Real”… both will only get you the “reality” you are already in… How about “Get Creative” instead…

We demonstrate maturity… when someone hurts us… and we try to understand the situation… instead of rushing to hurt them back…

Work on being happy today… no matter what… I hear it’s good for your health…

So much of the divisiveness in the world… could be solved… if we talked “to” each other… as much as we talk “about” each other…

Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go… just remember how far you have come… remember everything you have faced… all the battles you have won… and all the fears you have overcome… You’ve got this… Don’t stop now… !!

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A friend of mine started a page titled AWW-A Woman’s World Group… designed to abolish the idea that “it’s a man’s world”… I recommend it to you… I posted this on her site:

Of course it’s a woman’s world… just as much as it is a man’s… Platitudes like “its a man’s world”… are examples not of a truth… but of a denial of truth… The achievement of real equality for women in the world… exists in the recognition that none of us is free to deny the reality of women’s equality… Some people have argued against it… and some still do… but truth denied is still truth… There is no need to “achieve” equality for women… as human beings they are inherently equal… The progress women seek today therefore… is not something to be won… it is something to be recognized and accepted… The end of slavery in America… did not grant to slaves the status of human beings… it was instead a repudiation of those who denied their humanity to begin with… This is “our” world… All of it’s inhabitants have an equal right to claim their part in it… Anything else flies in the face of reality and reason…

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I believe that from time to time we are allowed to get lost…. so that we may find the person or the idea that will show us the way forward…

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Have you ever noticed how some people ask for advice?.. They spend more time telling you what won’t work than they do listening to what you are saying… They ask for advice but they really think they already know all the answers…

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There is no question we must all be willing to believe… willing to trust… but whenever our desire to believe defies reason… and we insist on trusting when there is compelling doubt… we make it easy for the liars!

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We have to be willing to let go of the life we have planned… so that we may enjoy the life that God has planned for us…

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Remember… the child you find so difficult today… is the same one you raised up until now…

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First strive to understand… then ask to be understood…

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When someone complains to you that life is hard… Ask… “Compared to what?”

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It is may seem easier… to build a lie… that gets you through the day… than to face the truth that haunts you through the night..

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A rule of thumb:… Never put yourself in a position… to be harmed by the truth…

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Why is it?… no matter how bad our memory is… we can always remember… the things we wish we could forget…

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Nothing makes us look more ridiculous… than the pretense… that we are something… we are not…

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We are all going to make our share of mistakes… so stop blaming yourself for being human…

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The thief thinks everyone steals.. the cheat thinks everyone cheats… the liar thinks everyone lies… the untrustworthy expects everyone else to be unworthy of trust… People will tell you who they really are… if you pay attention to what they say about others…

 

 

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185879_10150208851834762_603034761_9153142_5749412_nRelationships are important… they are a demonstration of our willingness to reach outside ourselves… to include someone else in our lives in a deeply emotional way… A good relationship… can add depth and texture to our lives… it can provide the feeling of intimacy that we all crave… Along with our faith… it can help to fill a feeling of emptiness that most of us feel at some time in our lives… but it is important to understand that a relationship… while an important “part” of our lives… is not the “totality” of our lives… Remaining who we are… while loving and embracing someone else can be difficult… but it is essential… Life has taught me that whenever I failed to do that… the end of that relationship… left me struggling to find the “Me” that I had sacrificed in building it… A relationship should be built around “your life”… not “your life” around the relationship… Finding love or friendship… is not enough… if you lose yourself in the process…

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1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

John 3:16

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Romans 12:2

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Ephesians 2:8

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.

Galatians 5:22

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.

John 16:33

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”