Life Lessons…

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THINGS I LEARNED IN LIFE

Anyone can say I’m sorry… but the best apology… is a change in behavior..

Accept what is… Let go of what was… and have faith in God… for what will be…

Quiet people… aren’t the only ones who don’t have much to say…

Love is a verb… not a noun… !!!

Tight shoes don’t make your feet look THAT much smaller… Vanity isn’t worth the pain.

No one is an expert on you… except you.

There is ALWAYS another way of looking at anything.

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I hate going to Costco on a Saturday… but yesterday was different… I needed some things for this coming week… so there I was… braving the crowd and out-of-control shopping carts… One of those carts was destined to change the character of my day… Wham… there it was… plowing into me from behind… When I turned, a woman, who would have been very attractive… had it not been for the deep frown her face was carrying… looked up and mumbled some kind of apology… you know, the formal kind that you can tell she didn’t really mean… I nodded “That’s okay”… as she hurried past… Minutes later as I maneuvered down a crowded aisle… there was that cart again… sitting right in the middle of the aisle… but without the woman… I recognized the stuff in the cart and looked around… but the cart was unescorted… so, I started to push it out of the way when she appeared… annoyed that I was moving her cart… I guess I was losing my patience because I started to complain about her leaving her cart blocking the aisle… when I noticed she had been crying… I stopped mid-sentence and asked…”Are you alright?”… she nodded… looked away… and said “Yes, I’m sorry…”… and I said… “No, I am sorry, I hope your day gets better…” As I walked away… I reminded myself that every day, I pass people who are struggling with some deep sorrow that I cannot see… and in this “hurrying” world we bump into each other from time to time… Last night, I prayed for the patience and compassion I need… not only for a Saturday at Costco… but, for everyday…

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Been thinking a lot lately… about some of the things I believe:

I believe it is never right to use the truth unkindly…
I believe there are some things worth dying for…
but few worth killing for…
I believe it really isn’t so important to be right… if someone else is made to feel… wrong…
I believe we could have loved the people we have loved… better…
I believe we can disagree without making either one of us… a bad person…
I believe that letting go of something or someone… frees up space for something or someone new… and often better…
I believe even a single act of kindness… can begin to change the world…
I believe the two most powerful words we might ever speak… could be… “I’m Sorry”…
I believe the greatest need we have is for love… and love is also our greatest loss.

Why is it… some folk… never notice the things you do for them… until you stop doing it…?

Before you have the right to ask for understanding… You must first demonstrate your willingness to understand others…

Ignorance hides under many aliases… The most common… is in those who disrespect the opinions of others… while insisting on the unquestioned truth of their own…

Life is too short to settle for anything… So don’t confuse comfort… with happiness…!!!

The math says… two minus one equals one… then why does two minus someone you have loved and lost… equals emptiness…

Miracles do happen… If you keep your eyes and heart open… some beautiful thing will happen… that will confirm your faith in them…

Each day God gives us… is a beautiful gift… but once it’s passed we can never retrieve it… the succession of these days make up our lives… and life is like holding a snowflake in our hands… we must enjoy its beauty while we have it… it will soon be gone… Today is all we have… and we should appreciate this snowflake’s beauty… while we have it… Have a blessed day…

Expecting the world to be fair… just because you are fair… is like expecting a lion not to eat you… because you aren’t planning to eat him…

What those we love want most… is something that is so easy to give… costs so little… and means so much… our attention…

All you have to do to realize… that time doesn’t heal all wounds… is to look into the faces in any crowd…

Be careful… not to do something “permanently” foolish… just because you are “temporarily” upset…

Wisdom… is not about how much you know… it’s more about how much you question… all the things you think you know…

Life loses much of its flavor… if you ever come to realize… that most of what you do… and most of what you feel… is just a habit…

At some point in all our lives… we have to recognize it’s no longer about what advantages we had… or didn’t have… when we were children… how good or bad our parents were… or that somehow the world conspired to deprive us of happiness and success… At some point… we have to accept that our lives are what we make them… and that we are responsible for who we are and the lives we lead… When I was at Z-100 we had a contest… during which… contestants could run into a vault-like room… and scoop up as much money as they could in 30 seconds… Life is like that contest… We can come to it with small ambitions and goals… and take only a little from it… or we can come with a strong faith… great energy and ambition… and make our lives the successes we want them to be… the choice has always been and still is… ours…

Anyone who uses the expression…” temptation reared its ugly head”… has never really seen how attractive temptation can be…

Trouble begins in a relationship… not when big problems arise… but when little kindnesses… and thoughtful actions… cease…

When more of our young die in school shootings… than soldiers in war zones… it’s time to do more than just grieve…

Studies show… that the most common feeling in people’s lives today… is loneliness… Part of the reason for that is… our tendency to look for perfect friends… perfect loves…. and perfect people… No one in this world is pure and perfect… so if you avoid people… because they are imperfect… you are destined to always be alone… Therefore… the antidote to loneliness must be… to judge less… understand more… accept more… forgive more… and love more…

It seems one of life’s most consistent illusions… is that the right starting point for a change… is always sometime in the future… “I’ll join a gym next week”… “My diet starts next Monday…” “I’ll call him or her tomorrow…” But the allure of a better starting point in the future is an illusion… Today is the only day we ever really have… So the best starting point is right where you are… right now… So if there is something you know needs doing… Do it now… !!!

To insist on being accepted for who you are… is far more to be preferred… than being accepted for who you must pretend to be… in order to gain that acceptance…

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I learned so much from Muffin and Cesar… my American Cocker Spaniels… they lived exclusively in the moment… They were not troubled by unhappy memories of the past… nor did they spend the day worrying about some distant future… their needs were simple… shelter…food… water… and love and attention from me… They asked for nothing more than to be allowed to occupy time and space in my life… expecting only that those basic needs be met… in return, they offered unconditional love… They never criticized how I looked or dressed… They respected my privacy when I needed it… and they were always willing to share affection and attention with me at any moment… They didn’t harbor grudges… nor did they know anger and resentment… when they did something wrong and they knew I was upset… They got this “I’m sorry” look in their eyes and came over to me looking for acceptance… and who could deny them… They were content with their lives… felt no pressure to achieve success… to gain wealth… or celebrity… unlike those of us who struggle with those foolish concerns… They awoke each morning… satisfied that their few needs would be met and that at the end of the day they could curl up next to someone they loved… seeking only to be loved in return… I have learned so much from Cesar and Muffin… and I miss them every day of my life…