“I Quit…!!!”

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I am hereby officially tendering my
resignation as an adult… I have decided
I want to go back to the responsibilities
of an 8 year-old…
I want to go to McDonald’s… and 
think that it’s a four star restaurant…
I want to lie in the grass… and make animals out of the clouds that pass overhead…
I want to think M&Ms are better than money because I can eat them…
I want to run a lemonade stand with my friends on a hot summer’s afternoon…
I want to return to a time when life was simple; When all I knew were colors, multiplication tables, and baseball batting averages… but that didn’t bother me… because I didn’t know how much more I didn’t know… and I didn’t care…
All I knew was to be happy… because I was blissfully unaware of all the things that should have made me worried or upset…
I want to think the world is fair again… That folks are honest and good…
I want to believe that anything is possible… I want to be oblivious to the complexities of life… and be wildly excited by the little things…
I want to live simply again… I don’t want my day to consist of computer crashes, mountains of paperwork, depressing news… how to survive more days in the month… than there is money in the bank… doctor bills, gossip, illness, and loss of loved ones…
I want to believe in the power of smiles, hugs, a kind word… truth, justice, peace, dreams, the imagination, mankind, and making angels in the snow…
So… here’s my checkbook and my car-keys, my credit card bills and my list of magazine subscriptions… I am officially resigning from adulthood…
And if anybody wants to discuss this further… you’ll have to catch me first, cause…
“Tag! you’re it.”

Stuff to Think About…

13906870_10201959289180205_8467175992813957855_nEach of us has our torments…

Memories… born of past wrongs and hurts…

That hound and harass us…

We hear the echoes of their voices…

As they whisper during the night…

And we know all their names…

For we were there when they were born…

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The most worrisome thing about political candidates… is not what they say they know… but what they refuse to admit… they don’t know…

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Sharing happiness with a loved one… doubles the happiness… sharing sorrow with a loved one… cuts the sorrow in half…

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“Always pray to have eyes that see the best in people…

a heart that forgives the worst…

a mind that forgets the bad…

and a soul that never loses faith in God…”

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Wisdom teaches us… to be “grateful”… when life is good… and to be “graceful”… in times of trouble…

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The only way… to find meaning in life…. is to create it yourself… It’s not hiding somewhere in a dark place… no mystery needs to be unlocked to find it… searching the world will not unveil it… It is a poem you must compose… it is a song you must sing…, it is a dance you must dance… it is an empty vessel you must fill… Life will have… whatever meaning you give it… and it is never too late to start…

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Why… after ten people have said I look good… do I get bummed out… by the one person who says I look tired…???

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I am trying to learn… to appreciate the value of a passerby’s smile… or friendly hello… since I rarely know anything about what is going on in their lives… what sorrows… losses… or worries they are carrying… I want to appreciate how hard it may have been for them… to create that smile… or in spite of their troubles… how deep they had to dig… to come up with that friendly “hello”…

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When will we realize what we all want most… is acceptance of who we are… and that does not require that you deny our defects and weaknesses… true acceptance… asks only… that we not be valued less because we are imperfect… In a rose… We see God’s perfect work… In us… We see His “work in progress”…The most secure feeling you can have… is to be in a relationship with someone… who knows who you are… and will love you for being you… in that kind of acceptance… lives real love…

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I believe… that those of us… who have lived through difficult and painful times… is stronger than we may think… no matter how bad things might have been back then… we survived… and with God’s help… we can do it again…

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Too many people I know… would not keep food long past it’s expiration date… but they don’t apply that same rule… to their relationships…

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If you have lost someone…you never thought you would lose… perhaps you can still find someone… you never thought you would find…

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I think you have found your soulmate….

When you discover that you often don’t need words to speak to each other…

When you can be silent together and still be comfortable…

When he/she knows how you are feeling without asking…

When everything old seems new again…

When all you need is her/his smile to make your day…

when you find yourself enjoying things you never would as long as you do them together..

when you find yourselves calling each other at the same time…

When you rarely have to plan things, they just happen and you both enjoy whatever it is…

When being honest with each other is always safe…

When disagreements, no matter how serious, always end in expressions of love…

When he/she is the first thing you think about in the morning and the last thing you think about at night.

 

“We are all one…”



There is a story about a place in Hawaii… where for some reason… people go to commit suicide by jumping from a high point… One day a couple of police officers in a patrol car… were driving past that area when they noticed a young man about to jump… One of the officers jumped out of the car immediately… ran to the young man… and grabbed his leg to keep him from jumping… but the young man jumped anyway and was about to pull the policeman along with him… when the 2nd policeman caught up with them… and grabbed them both… and helped pull them both back to safety… later the 2nd policeman asked the 1st one… why he didn’t let go when the young man jumped… The 1st policeman said “in that moment… something happened… and I felt so committed to him… that his life became the same as mine… and his death…would have been my death… I knew somehow… that we are all one… and I could not let him die… without at least some part of me… dying too”…

Think about it…!!

star-1553417_640“It is the secret of the world that all things subsist and do not die, but only retire a little from sight and afterwards return again. Nothing is dead; men feign themselves dead, and endure mock funerals and mournful obituaries, and there they stand looking out of the window, sound and well, in some new strange disguise. Jesus is not dead; he is very well alive; nor John, nor Paul, nor Mahomet, nor Aristotle; at times we believe we have seen them all, and could easily tell the names under which they go…”…Ralph Waldo Emerson…

Loneliness…

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Studies show… that the most common feeling… in people’s lives today… is loneliness… part of the reason for that is… our tendency to look for perfect friends… perfect loves….no one in this world is pure and perfect… so if you avoid people because they are imperfect… you are destined to always be alone… the antidote to loneliness is… to judge less… understand more… accept more… forgive more… and love more…

Reflecting on Life…

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Funny how every once in a while we start reflecting on life.. Has it ever made sense?.. will it ever make sense?.. we wonder why we spend so much time doing things we “have” to do… and so little time doing the things we really “want” to do… we spend so much time with people who add nothing to our lives… and so little time with people we love… we acquire too much that is only temporary… and too little that has lasting value.. we face new challenges with old ideas… we open and close our hearts at the wrong times, often letting in sorrow and excluding joy… we figure out the answers long after it’s too late to solve the problems… and yet we rise each morning, ready to fill another day with our hopes and dreams and aspirations… determined to make it all different… do it better… do it right this time… Our dreams are filled with hopes for a new and better tomorrow…. Langston Hughes said “Hold fast to your dreams, for if dreams die, life is but a broken winged bird that cannot fly”… so we must all hold fast to our dreams…. so that even when our wings are broken …. our spirit is not…

Looking for Love…

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Everybody seems to be looking for love… real love… although some of us delude ourselves into thinking that finding sex is finding love… The problem for many of us is that we begin by looking outward… who is it that we want to love?… and we are looking for the perfect woman… or the perfect man… measuring what it is they have to offer us… but maybe the search should begin “inside”… maybe we should begin by looking at ourselves… finding the things about ourselves that make us loveable…maybe before we look for love, we should first try to discover our own strengths and weaknesses… the things that live and hide right in the heart of our greatest insecurities and heartbreaks… Maybe if we focus on those first… minimize the weaknesses… maximize the good things… and then look outward for love… maybe we will find almost without trying… that we are experiencing mutual attractions with people who are looking for love… and who treasure the very gifts we have to offer.

Wondering…!!

Learn_zFunny how every once in a while we start reflecting on life… Has it ever made sense?.. will it ever make sense?.. we wonder why we spend so much time doing things we “have” to do… and so little time doing the things we really “want” to do… we spend so much time with people who add nothing to our lives… and so little time with people we love… We acquire too much that is temporary… and too little that has lasting value… We face new challenges with old ideas… we open and close our hearts at the wrong times… often letting in sorrow and excluding joy… we figure out the answers… long after it’s too late to solve the problems… and yet we rise each morning… ready to fill another day with our hopes and dreams and aspirations… determined to make it all different… do it better… do it right this time… Our dreams are filled with hopes for a new and better tomorrow… Langston Hughes said “Hold fast to your dreams, for if dreams die, life is but a broken winged bird that cannot fly”…so we must all hold fast to our dreams… so that even when our wings are broken… our spirit is not… 

In a Rut?…

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It occurs to me that sometimes I get into a rut… like the hamster running on that little wheel… I’m going all the time… but I wonder if I am getting anywhere… I get up every morning about the same time… eat the same things for breakfast… drive the same roads to where I need to go…  and do the same activities most days… and end up eating pretty much the dinner I always eat, and so on… now there’s nothing wrong with what I am doing, but I wonder if my life is really composed of 365 different days a year… or of one day… repeated 365 times… I can hear you saying, “but I don’t do exactly the same things everyday” and you are right… but I challenge you to look at your life… and figure out how many of those days are spent running on that little wheel… and how much of your year and thus your life… is spent repeating yourself over and over again… My point is this… Life is short… no matter how you measure it… too short for so much boring repetition… so I am offering you a challenge…  Do something different today… start looking for a new way to get to work… a new way to spend your weekends… a new way to fill your leisure time… and most important… a new way to show those people who mean something to you… just how much you love them… 

Relationships…

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I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life… too many moments I am not proud of… but I have learned that no matter how long you have traveled down a “wrong” road… it is never too late to turn around… and head in the “right” direction… My faith teaches me… that we are all entitled to second chances… just as long as we are willing to admit our mistakes… and make an honest effort not to repeat them… These second chances… are available to all of us… Don’t be afraid to take advantage of the opportunity…

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A friend asked whether I thought relationships were harder today… and I agree with those who say they are… We live in a “temporary” short-term culture.. they don’t build and advertise cars to “last a lifetime”… they want you to trade them in every new model year… music is a “hit” today and gone tomorrow… fads and fixes… whether related to books, movies, diets, clothing styles, video games or children’s toys are all designed to attract us to the “latest” new thing… Reality TV dominates our viewing and it is all about making new friends and then dumping them… TV shows like “Survivor” are all about temporary alliances and relationships… Even shows like American Idol and America’s Got Talent… they want us to forget last years winner in the effort to find “this years” winner… there was a time when performers like Sinatra, Bennett, Fitzgerald, could have careers that lasted 40 years… name for me the performers of today you expect to be listening to 40 years from now?.. Our news channels are constantly hyping the latest tragedy or threat or chaotic political situation… They fight to find something “new” to tell us about… the latest list of divorces or celebrity overdoses… I wonder who repairs shoes anymore or fixes the broken toaster?… we can hardly get our new cell phone home before it becomes obsolete and needs to be replaced…A relationship is like a garden or farm… it takes patience, nurturing and lots of continuous work… even when the growing season ends… the work to prepare the soil for the next season begins… the best relationships like the best gardens… are a lot of continuous work… Farmers farm the same land for many generations because they know how to tend to the soil and plant the seeds for each new season… they don’t move on to a new farm every time there is a drought or insect infestation… they know what we no longer understand about relationships… that it takes commitment and dedication and work to make anything successful… it takes toughing it out in the bad times… repairing the damage and rebuilding… after all that is why so many find that the next new hook-up….. doesn’t work any better than the one just left…

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Last week… a young boy I met in the supermarket… asked me a simple question… He asked:… “Who are you?” I wanted to tell him… “I have spent my whole life trying to figure that out…” It was a simple question…. But finding out who you are is not simple… It takes a lot of hard work and courage to get to know who you are… and even more to share it with someone else… We tend to define ourselves by what we do… or where we live… or by our last name or racial or religious associations… But do those things really answer the question?… All of us are so much more than those things… They are not who we are after the masks and emblems we wear all day for others to see… are put away for the night… They are not what we feel… what we believe… how we love… what warms our hearts… what brings a smile to our faces or a tear to our eyes… what stirrings are laced into the steady beating of our hearts… Even the carefully released little truths about ourselves that we share with those we love… are so much less than who we are complete… I wonder:… Maybe the only truthful answer I could have given that young boy was… “I don’t know… yet…”

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Sometimes… I find myself in some unexpected place… facing some unexpected stranger… wrestling with some unexpected thought… confronting some unexpected challenge… and sometimes in that unexpected place… I learn something unexpected… about myself…

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I would feel more optimistic about a bright future for mankind… if we spent less time trying to prove that we can outwit nature and improve on what God has created… and as stewards of this planet… spent more time enjoying its beauty and wonder… while protecting His wonderful creations for our children and grandchildren…

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The only thing about your past… that will ever matter… is that you have held yourself accountable for your mistakes… and that you are better than you once were… You must have the confidence to look back at your past… not with shame or humiliation… but acknowledging yourself as an “imperfect” human being… ultimately one who is trying to be their best… No one can ask more of any of us…

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A friend complained to me yesterday… that God never answers his prayers… I told him that there are only three answers to prayer… “Yes… No… or Be patient…” I also told him… Sometimes… God doesn’t change your situation… because He is waiting for you… to change your heart…

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Love is an irrational emotion… it is beyond explanation… or understanding… It inflames the heart and dulls the brain… It is both dangerous and thrilling… exciting and frightening… Yet it can brighten the dark places in our lives… and fill the emptiness we all run from… It is the one thing in life… we all live for… and cannot live without… I guess the Beatles were right…
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Yesterday is gone… Last week is gone… all the past years are gone… It’s time to put whatever mistakes, doubts, pain and disappointments that troubled us then… aside… This new week… brings us a new start… a new opportunity to write the story of our lives… on a new page… To write better things… new successes… happy moments… Make it special… write a new, more beautiful story on this new page… Have a Blessed life… !!
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Most often… A break up is like a broken mirror that’s been dropped… It’s better to leave it broken… than hurt yourself trying to pick up the pieces !!!
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Dumbing yourself down… to make someone else more comfortable… is a giant mistake… intelligence and competence are not negatives… A strong… confident… self-sufficient person… is far more attractive… than one who is waiting for someone else to come along… and validate them… Don’t change… if they can’t handle that… Tough “#$%&”…
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