I agree…

John“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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It’s better to be perfectly useful than uselessly perfect. ~Dr. Idel Dreimer,

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Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

~Winston Churchill

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A man with one watch knows what time it is; a man with two watches is never quite sure. ~Lee Segall

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Only that in you which is me can hear what I’m saying. ~Baba Ram Dass

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Losing an illusion makes you wiser than finding a truth. ~Ludwig Börne

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No matter where you go or what you do, you live your entire life within the confines of your head. ~Terry Josephson

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Among creatures born into chaos, a majority will imagine an order, a minority will question the order, and the rest will be pronounced insane. ~Robert Brault

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“Well, in our country,” said Alice, still panting a little, “you’d generally get somewhere else—if you ran very fast for a long time, as we’ve been doing.” “A slow sort of country!” said the Queen. “Now, here, you see, it takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place…” ~Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking-Glass, And What Alice Found There.

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The world always makes the assumption that the exposure of an error is identical with the discovery of truth — that the error and truth are simply opposite. They are nothing of the sort. What the world turns to, when it is cured on one error, is usually simply another error, and maybe one worse than the first one. ~H.L. Mencken

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We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. ~Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

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Nobody knows the age of the human race, but everybody agrees that it is old enough to know better. ~Author Unknown

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We accept the love… we think we deserve

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“Life is not about finding ourselves… it is about creating ourselves”… we are not lumps of clay… waiting to be shaped by some invisible potter… on the contrary…we are endowed with the ability to “create” our lives… based on the choices we make… the values we hold… the sum total of our ideas, values and life choices is what shapes us all…

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When someone has done us wrong… keeping the anger and disappointment inside just prolongs the hurt… we have to learn to accept the apology when it is offered… in fact… sometimes we have to accept the apology even when it is not offered…

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Sometimes it is better to be kind… than it is to be truthful… especially since we can be sure of the benefits of kindness… but can’t always be sure about what the truth is…and what effect the truth might have…

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You know you are in a real relationship… when the time comes that you know each other’s faults… and have accepted them… and when you are both trusting and confident enough… to let each other keep some necessary secrets…

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Worrying about what other people think… is a waste of time… most of them are too busy with their own lives to have the time to really care about yours… but once in a while… you will find someone who really listens… understands… and cares… about everything about you… hang on to them… they are the ones you have been looking for…

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When we face sorrow in life… people tell us to “get over it”… “Let it go…” or “Forget it, move on”… All of this presupposes that when life brings us sadness or pain… we need to get over it as quickly as we can… I disagree… I think sometimes instead of dumping the pain… we ought to embrace it… feel it… allow it to do its job of teaching us about life… When we just “let it go”… we lose the chance to learn it’s lesson…

Real Stories…

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I love the story of the little boy… walking with his Mother… who sees an old man sitting on his porch crying… the boy runs up to the porch and climbs up on the man’s lap… and sits there for a time… then he jumps down and runs back to his waiting Mother… When she asks him what he said to the man… the boy said… “Nothing Mom… I just helped him cry…

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He was a Taxi driver…. driving the night shift… When most late-night passengers climbed in… they sat behind him in total silence… or some talked about their lives… some made him laugh… and some were full of sadness… But none touched him more than a woman he picked up late one August night… It was 2:30 a.m when he arrived at the pickup address…. Sitting on the steps of a rundown apartment building was a frail, elderly woman… By her side… was a small battered suitcase… When she got in the cab… she gave him the address… then asked… “Could you drive through downtown?”… “It’s not the shortest way…” the driver answered… “Oh, I don’t mind,” she said. “I’m in no hurry… For the next two hours, they drove through the city… She showed him the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator… They drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds… They pulled up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom… where she had gone dancing as a girl…. Sometimes she’d ask him to slow in front of a particular building… or corner… and would sit staring into the darkness… saying nothing… At the first hint of morning, she suddenly said… “I’m tired. Let’s go now.” They drove in silence to the address she had given him…. When they arrived… she leaned forward… thanking him for his kindness. “Oh, you’re such a good boy,” she said…. He looked in the rearview mirror… Her eyes were glistening… “this is a hospice” she said… “I don’t have any family left… and my doctor says I don’t have much time left… “Tonight you gave an old woman a few moments of joy,” she said. “Thank you…” she asked how much she owed… but the driver said…”Nothing” as he turned off the meter… He helped her out of the cab… and gave her a hug… As he drove off he heard a door close… It was the sound of the closing of a life… He didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift… He drove aimlessly… lost in thought… realizing… how conditioned we are… to think that our lives revolve around great moments… But great moments… often catch us unaware… beautifully wrapped… in a late night drive… with a special passenger… on her way home…

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He had been sick for some months now… but every day she had managed to visit him in the hospital… now he laid in a coma… She had talked to him on each visit… and held his hand on each visit… she had poured out her heart to him… telling him how much she loved him… how much she would miss him… On each journey home… she had prayed that he would awaken… so they could say goodbye to each other… Now he was gone… and there had been no time to talk… she had so wanted to hear him say… just one more time… that he loved her… that she had been a good wife… but that was not to be… Months later she felt strong enough to go through his things… there in a drawer… under some shirts… she found a small box… labeled… “The Most Important Thing in My Life”… inside she found a picture of herself…

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I got up early that day… made my way to McDonald’s for a cup of coffee… at the counter just ahead of me an elderly couple put some crumpled dollar bills on the counter… to pay for the single Breakfast Platter with Pancakes they had ordered… The elderly man picked up the tray… carried it to a booth just across from where I sat with my coffee… I watched her… carefully divide up the contents of the platter between them… He got the pancakes and the sausage and the hash browns…she, the scrambled eggs and a biscuit… the man seemed tired… less alert than she was… she cut up his pancakes and handed him a napkin… he began to eat slowly… I thought of the thousands of meals… they must have shared over so many years… how they must have carefully managed their money like this… dividing a meal and sharing it… when I noticed he had stopped eating… she said…”you have to eat… keep up your strength…”… he said…”too dry…”… she rose slowly and went to the counter… returning with two packages of syrup… she opened and poured them on his pancakes… then returned to her breakfast… he started eating again… then stopped… reached across the table… and with the most beautiful, loving look in his eyes… took her hand… and said… “Thank you”… I knew he was thanking her for more than the extra syrup… he was thanking her for the years of caring… sharing… and love… that lived in their relationship… she smiled… pleased… and said… “now eat your pancakes…”

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THE WATCH

It was only a toy watch… a toy that didn’t really keep time… but when 5 yr. old Jimmy got it for his birthday… he loved it… and wore it all the time… Jimmy also loved his father… and one day when his father asked him if he loved him… Jimmy said…”Yes, I do Daddy… I love you more than anything…” then his father said… “Would you give me your watch?”… Jimmy said quickly… “oh please Daddy, not my watch…”… his father smiled and said… “that’s okay… I still love you…” Every once in a while… Jimmy’s father would repeat the request for Jimmy’s watch… but the answer was always the same… then one day when his father asked him again… Jimmy took his watch off… and with tears in his eyes… gave it to his father and said… “I really do love you, Daddy… so you can have my watch…” his father fighting back his own tears… reached into a drawer… where it had been all this time… and gave Jimmy a real watch… He had only been waiting for Jimmy… to give up something fake… so that he could give him something real… just like our Father in heaven… waits for us to give up what is false… so He can give us what is true…

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Once a very successful man… sought out a great thinker and said… ”I have earned a dozen degrees… conquered the world of business… risen to a high place in my community… and now I want to learn what wisdom is…” Each time The Master began to speak… the man interrupted and said he had already heard that suggestion… or tried that idea and it didn’t help him… After a while… The Master sat him down and offered his visitor some tea… He poured his visitor’s cup full… but kept on pouring… The powerful man watched the overflow until he could no longer restrain himself… “Stop,” he said… ”Can’t you see the cup is full and overflowing. No more will go in!”… The Master then looked up at him and said… “Like this cup… you are full of your own successes… opinions… and ideas… How can I show you wisdom when there is no room left in your cup?…”

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A wise Grandfather… told his grandchild, “In every human… there is a terrible fight going on… between two wolves… One is evil: he is fear, anger, envy, greed, arrogance, self-pity and deceit…The other is good: joy, serenity, humility, compassion, generosity, truth, gentleness, and love ….” The child asked, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?” The elder said… “The one you feed.”

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Some time ago… I read a story about a man who owned a blind horse… He didn’t put the horse down though… he simply tied a small bell to another horse… Each morning when the guide horse moved out into the pasture… the blind horse would follow the sound of the bell… At the end of the day… the guide horse would head back to the stable… with the blind horse following close behind… Like the owner of those two horses… God doesn’t throw us away… because we are not perfect… Seeing our problems and challenges… He not only watches over us… but He will at times… bring someone into our lives… to help show us the way… but unlike the two horses… sometimes we are the blind horse… trusting someone else… to lead us ahead… and sometimes… we are called to be the guide horse… showing someone who is lost… how to find their way…. In either role… you will be following God’s plan…

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Holding on to anger or disappointment only prolongs the hurt…

Once there were two monks who belonged to an order that forbid them to interact with strangers… One day the monks were traveling to visit another monastery… when they came to a river and saw an old man sitting on the bank… the old man asked if they would help him across… he was afraid the current was too strong for him to do it alone… against the advice of his fellow monk… the younger monk picked up the old man and carried him across the river… the older monk was outraged and refused to speak to the offending monk for three days as they traveled… Finally, the young monk asked..” Why are you so angry with me?” The angry monk said…”because you disobeyed our rules… you interacted with that old man and carried him across the river…” to which the young monk replied…”That’s true … but I put him down on the other side…. And you are still carrying him…

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The woman pushed her cart up to the checkout… and began to unload it… some cereal… a quart of milk… a package of cheese… and a Birthday cake… the cashier gave her a look when she came to the cake… “You are on food stamps aren’t you?… can you buy a cake on food stamps?”… the woman, embarrassed… nodded Yes… “ someone behind her… mumbled… “you should be buying more nutritious food for your kids…” “not wasting your stamps on cake…” the woman was silent… She just gathered up her purchases… leaving the grumbling behind her as she left the store… At home… she set up the cake and lit the candles before calling out to her 3 yr. old daughter to come and see a surprise… the 3 yr. old daughter who was dying of cancer… and was about to blow out the candles… on her very last birthday cake…

 

There He is…

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A wise man was traveling throughout the countryside… when he came to a little village… he stopped to speak to the people… When he was finished… a woman approached him and said… “all my life I have been looking for God… and have been unable to find him…” “I want to love God” she said… “but if I can’t see him… how can I love him?”… Then the wise man said to her… “is there anything in this world that you love?” And the woman answered, “ of course… when I see my son…” she said… pointing to a little boy… “I feel love… But where is God?”… And the wise man said, “There He is”…

“We are all one…”



There is a story about a place in Hawaii… where for some reason… people go to commit suicide by jumping from a high point… One day a couple of police officers in a patrol car… were driving past that area when they noticed a young man about to jump… One of the officers jumped out of the car immediately… ran to the young man… and grabbed his leg to keep him from jumping… but the young man jumped anyway and was about to pull the policeman along with him… when the 2nd policeman caught up with them… and grabbed them both… and helped pull them both back to safety… later the 2nd policeman asked the 1st one… why he didn’t let go when the young man jumped… The 1st policeman said “in that moment… something happened… and I felt so committed to him… that his life became the same as mine… and his death…would have been my death… I knew somehow… that we are all one… and I could not let him die… without at least some part of me… dying too”…

You and Your Brain…

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The Brain

Complex and poorly understood, the brain is what makes everything work properly. The body may be kept alive, but without the brain, a person can’t truly live. Here are some interesting and weird facts about the brain.

  • The brain doesn’t feel pain: Even though the brain processes pain signals, the brain itself does not actually feel pain.
  • Your brain has huge oxygen needs: Your brain requires 20 percent of the oxygen and calories your body needs — even though your brain only makes up two percent of your total body weight.
  • 80% of the brain is water: Instead of being relatively solid, your brain is 80% water. This means that it is important that you remain properly hydrated for the sake of your mind.
  • Your brain comes out to play at night: You’d think that your brain is more active during the day, when the rest of your body is. But it’s not. Your brain is more active when you sleep.
  • Your brain operates on 10 watts of power: It’s true: The amazing computational power of your brain only requires about 10 watts of power to operate.
  • A higher I.Q. equals more dreams: The smarter you are, the more you dream. A high I.Q. can also fight mental illness. Some people even believe they are smarter in their dreams than when they are awake.
  • The brain changes shapes during puberty: Your teenage years do more than just change how you feel; the very structure of your brain changes during the teen years, and it even affects impulsive, risky behavior.
  • Your brain can store everything: Technically, your brain has the capacity to store everything you experience, see, read or hear. However, the real issue is recall — whether you can access that information.

Information in your brain travels at different speeds: The neurons in your brain are built differently, and information travels along them at different speeds. This is why sometimes you can recall information instantly, and sometimes it takes a little longer.

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185879_10150208851834762_603034761_9153142_5749412_nMy usual strategy for living my life is to focus on the future… following Satchel Paige’s advice not “to look back, something may be gaining on you…” lol But at this time of year… it pays to look back at our footsteps… if only to remind ourselves… that most of the time… we chose the path that led us to where we are today..

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Today would be a great day for all of us to give up on the idea of being perfect… and begin concentrating on just being ourselves…

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I have a friend who is a workaholic… He has little time for his wife and kids just now… he says he works all these hours because he wants to make as much money as he can… to provide for his family… I wonder if he realizes that no matter how much money he makes…. he will never be able to buy back the time… he is losing with them now…
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When you show kindness and generosity to others… it is not a gift…. it is an investment… the more kindness and generosity you invest in others… the more you will receive in return…
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There is no question we must all be willing to believe… willing to trust… but whenever our desire to believe… ignores reason… and we insist on trusting when there is compelling doubt… we make it easy for the liars!
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What binds two people together?… not the things most of us suspect… I think it will be the years of little “shared experiences”… The long-ago struggles in the beginning… the foolish hurts… soothed by a touch… a sunset in some exotic place… a picnic on a sunny afternoon… a walk in the rain… a walk along a deserted beach… the sound of singing in the shower… a comforting hug in the middle of the night… the sound of their car in the driveway… and the dozens of glances from across the room… that say… “I love you”…

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I am discovering… that some of the people I have loved… were not deserving of it… but that’s their loss… not mine…

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Whatever you have planned for today… wherever you have to go… I wish only that my prayer for your success and joy… gets there in the same moment that you do…

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First, strive to understand… then ask to be understood…

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When someone complains to you that life is hard… Ask… “Compared to what?”

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Worse than breaking a promise… is trying to stay true to a promise someone else broke… long ago…

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It is may seem easier… to build a lie… that gets you through the day… than to face the truth that haunts you through the night.

I have learned the most in my lifetime… not from those who “told” me how to live… but from those who simply lived a good life… so that I could “see” how it was done…

 I believe in God… but for me… Faith in God… is not about how loudly you sing in church… or how many Bible verses you can recite… It’s not about how often you profess your faith… or your public works… It’s about the quiet, little things you do every day… to love God… and to love your neighbor

We take our problems to God… through prayer… not to influence Him… but to demonstrate that we surrender the effort to solve them in our own strength… Have a blessed Sunday…!!!

We spend so much of our time… searching for a love that will “complete” us… and often we wait for it to come and fulfill our lives… but love itself… cannot complete us… it can only give us the courage…to complete ourselves…

I don’t get the sense of statements like “Get Real”… or “Be Real”… both will only get you the “reality” you are already in… How about “Get Creative” instead…

We demonstrate maturity… when someone hurts us… and we try to understand the situation… instead of rushing to hurt them back…

Work on being happy today… no matter what… I hear it’s good for your health…

So much of the divisiveness in the world… could be solved… if we talked “to” each other… as much as we talk “about” each other…

Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go… just remember how far you have come… remember everything you have faced… all the battles you have won… and all the fears you have overcome… You’ve got this… Don’t stop now… !!

Messed up Thinking…

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Filtering:

You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation…

Polarized Thinking:

Things are black or white… good or bad… You have to be perfect or you’re a failure… There is no middle ground…

Mind Reading:

Without their saying so… you think you know what people are feeling… and why they act the way they do…

In particular, you think you know how people are feeling toward you…

Personalization:

Thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who’s smarter, better looking, etc.

Fallacy of Fairness:

You feel resentful because you think you know what’s fair but other people don’t always agree with you.

Blaming:

You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem or reversal.

Expectations for others:

You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you and you feel guilty if you violate the rules.

Emotional Reasoning:

You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you think someone is stupid and boring, then they must be stupid and boring.

Fallacy of Change:

You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or pressure them enough. You need to change people because your hope for happiness seems to depend entirely on them.

Global Labeling:

You generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment.

Being Right:

You are continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness.

Reward Fallacy:

You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score.

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A friend of mine started a page titled AWW-A Woman’s World Group… designed to abolish the idea that “it’s a man’s world”… I recommend it to you… I posted this on her site:

Of course it’s a woman’s world… just as much as it is a man’s… Platitudes like “its a man’s world”… are examples not of a truth… but of a denial of truth… The achievement of real equality for women in the world… exists in the recognition that none of us is free to deny the reality of women’s equality… Some people have argued against it… and some still do… but truth denied is still truth… There is no need to “achieve” equality for women… as human beings they are inherently equal… The progress women seek today therefore… is not something to be won… it is something to be recognized and accepted… The end of slavery in America… did not grant to slaves the status of human beings… it was instead a repudiation of those who denied their humanity to begin with… This is “our” world… All of it’s inhabitants have an equal right to claim their part in it… Anything else flies in the face of reality and reason…

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***Fast food fried chicken chain KFC gave away 3,000 free bottles of sunscreen that allegedly “smelled like fried chicken” to promote its Extra Crispy chicken… Hmmmm…!!!

Books… Books… Books…

A recent study showed that reading a book for just 6 minutes a day reduced stress by as much as 68%. How crazy is that?! Unlike watching TV, reading gives your brain a break from the external stimulation that you’re bombarded with all day long, and allows you to unplug, slow down, and lose yourself in your imagination. This act is good for your health, your brain, and your happiness! So make a commitment to read a good, physical book, not on your e-reader, for at least 10-15 minutes a day. Feel like you don’t have enough time? Read in bed before falling asleep!

***Ramen noodles… are overtaking tobacco as the most popular currency in US prisons… according to a new study…A new report by Michael Gibson-Light, a doctoral candidate in the University of Arizona’s school of sociology… found the decline in quality and quantity of food available in prisons due to cost-cutting… has made ramen noodles a valuable commodity…

More Hugs…

Physical affection is amazing for your health, your happiness, and even your waistline! It lowers blood pressure, stress, and cortisol levels. It prevents illness by supporting your immune system and prevents depression and anxiety. It boosts your oxytocin and serotonin levels, making you feel happier, calmer, and more secure. Basically, hugs are like free therapy. So get your hugging on! Shoot for at least 4 hugs a day, and make them count.

***Cucamelon: A teaspoon-sized cucumber that looks like “Honey, I Shrunk the Watermelon.” Is a real, actual fruit that you will find in grocery stores… Probably only the fancy, most expensive ones…

69 percent

Percentage of South Africans who agree that jobs go only to “people with connections” and that that’s “a very important reason” why many other people in South Africa don’t have jobs. That figure was similarly high in other major African nations: 63 percent in Nigeria and 64 percent in Kenya.

659 asteroids

Number of asteroids listed by the NASA Center for Near-Earth Object Studies as having some chance of hitting Earth. If it’s any consolation, the organizers of an event called “Asteroid Day” maintain that there are 1 million asteroids that could potentially strike the planet, and that we have only found a very, very small portion of them.

100,000 beavers

… are doomed to die at the hands of the Argentine government. They were released into the province of Tierra del Fuego to spur the fur trade, but the beavers began reproducing and — with no natural predators — got out of hand. Argentina plans to eradicate the entire population.